Marriage, Prayer, and ADHD

DH has mentioned to me many times that praying is very difficult for him unless he is praying alone and aloud.  His mind wanders and he just doesn't pay attention.  It makes for a difficult spiritual connection as a married couple because he's only willing to pray if he's the one talking.  I'll be blunt, it feels really selfish, like many things do with ADHD.

On the one hand, I could say that if something is important to you, then you'll pay attention, but praying with your spouse is one of those things that many times is something you know should be really important, but it isn't that important to your brain, which is governed by your flesh more than you wish it were.

As a spouse who has dealt with ADHD for more than 10 years now, I can say very honestly that I wish my husband would try harder, but I'm glad that at least he tries to pray together as a family.  Many husbands do not even make that effort.  

I also think that as a spouse, its important to cultivate your own walk with God and not get stuck on what your spouse isn't doing.  AND  its important to do your part to work with your spouse's disability.  Keep your prayers short and to the point.  Save venting for your prayer closet.  Discuss family prayer requests regularly when you are not actually praying.  Maybe post a bulletin board with a list of family prayer requests (like in the master bathroom where your spouse can see it, but not every person who walks in your house, if you want to keep things safe and private).

I'd love to hear your ideas about what works to keep prayer in your marriage with your ADHD spouse.

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